Jacopo Cardillo, known as Jago, is a famous contemporary sculptor from Anagni (Italy).
His reinterpretation of the Pietà, originally exhibited in the Church of the Artists in Rome, depicts a father holding the body of his son, evoking themes of love and loss.
This marble sculpture took months to make.
Some have called him the new Michelangelo for the skill and emotional power of his work.

I invite you to consider the somatic energetics of these dancers, and then imagine the somatic come sexuality of such energetics when in intimate somatic sexual connection as men in male bodies …..Do you want to join as ‘lovers of the dance’ as we dance towards the layers within, and expand on our repertoire of somatics and somatic-sexuality and energetics with presence, and be witness to..? 

Zyai Zazai, 2012, Ankara State Opera & Ballet, Gala Performance, Turkey

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Tena koutou katoa!

An Expanded Version –

An ‘Holding with Presence come Energetics MASSAGE’ for All Persons living in male bodies, including same gender and hetero- couples (*How can you/we be in connecting/affectioning/intimacying with a different gender if you are disconnected from yourself and your same gender brothers?): Brothering come Bro-Lovering -as evidenced by my/our fathers -deceased, separated, blended, closeted; uncles; cousins; nephews; sons; babies; through to an impact on embryoes.

Information                                                                                                                                                              *This type of ‘massage’ is not appropriate for any survivor of abuse, and/or ongoing trauma, unless checked through on by a professional counsellor etc. first.

The ‘holding massage’ involves four distinct types of somatic experience, the first two can be completed within one or two sessions, while the third and fourth need to be usually completed as separate sessions, after the two previous types have been completed, repeated more than once                                                           

A Package option over several days

GUIDELINES *Before you commit to a package, please consider whether this is an option for you in terms of your own disassociation (ie. separation) from your body during intimacy, human interaction and/or during everyday life, and, whether you are willing to invite in this disassociation throughout a session (a separation from emotions/feelings by returning to more familiar patternings of giving greater overall priority to others compared with yourself, over talking, humour, shifting the focus away from your somatic self, only connecting in with your particular ‘type’ of male, choosing sexuality over authentic connecting in etc. These patternings have developed from a young age in response to surviving in a heterosexist/homophobic and ‘religio-colonised’ society come culture, wherein the family/whanau come the hetero-normative majority conditioning becomes more important than the individual developing baby/child). This separation can be compounded by abuse/trauma, experiencing a sensuous event with an adult as a younger person, but having it re-perceived as a ‘religio-colonised’ come negative/sexual experience, later in life. Some of the symptoms of separation are panic attacks, tiredness/exhaustion (ie. ‘minority stress’) leading to burnout; an obsessive pursuit of sexual interactions/release, and/or; social anxiety (a feeling of not wanting to go out in public/a type of ‘shyness’ and/or feeling over stimulated by noise/people etc., withdrawal/separation/aloneness, and/or a ‘void’ like feeling of a ‘nothingness’/no energetic sense of self and/or an invisible ‘film’ coming over you.

Curated Package

*Karakia, proverb/saying, waiata; hongi
*Sage incense/smudge
*Call in a deity/guardian/symbol/mentor/whanau/be-loved
-A Heart Circle with three parts for greater arriving as individuals and then as a dyad:
A brief, how am i, emotions/feelings, a story;
Why am i/are we here?, and then;
closure: What is one feeling/emotion, and/or one story

*Session 1:
*Consenting/boundaries re. no touching of genitallia, any form of kissing
developing of
-being ‘of Presence’ then a ‘holding’ each other, with a pillow between our genitallia
-Why am i/are we here?
-sighing/sound, movement, key words
-shared self-reflections -one challenge then one positive
*individual reflection/integration of a couple+ hours, then an agreement to stop or continue
*Session 1, may/may not lead into Session 2

*Session 2:
*Consenting/boundaries re. no touching of genitallia, cheek to check ‘kissing’
further developing/consolidating of
-being ‘of Presence’ a ‘holding’ of each other and then sexuality within the ‘holding’ when the pillow is taken away so as to acknowledge the body as a whole
-Why am i/are we here?
-sighing/sound, movement, key words
-unbuttoning of each other’s shirt
-shared self-reflections -one challenge then one positive
*Session 2 may/may not lead into Session 3 *extension options to be talked to and/or agreed to, for reasons of beyond gender come socio-cultural health and wellbeing for the application of sensuosity in public
“The personal is whanau/family, community, the work/‘the professional’, the public, and vice versa, they are not separate!” eg. as brothers/be-loveds, walking in the township/art gallery; sofa movie; upcycle/op shops; drive to the other end/rural (25’); playing on a beach as younger boys; a swim; visiting a cafe/restaurant; a walking track; a flying fox over a regional park; a flower farm; and/or a picnic/fish ‘n chips (some of these will require an individual cost)