Jacopo Cardillo, known as Jago, is a famous contemporary sculptor from Anagni (Italy).
His reinterpretation of the Pietà, originally exhibited in the Church of the Artists in Rome, depicts a father holding the body of his son, evoking themes of love and loss.
This marble sculpture took months to make.
Some have called him the new Michelangelo for the skill and emotional power of his work.

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*Availability: Mondays, alternate Tuesdays/Thursdays, Wednesdays, Fridays and weekends from mid afternoon, although you are welcome to ask for any other availability.

*$75 fee -free or by anonymous donation, plus or minus …

*The compression type massage is a pre-requisite for this ‘holding’ type massage. Please read the website pages pertaining to the compression and ‘holding’ massage types before contacting me: https://sacredrainbowcreations.nz

A Summative Version

An ‘Holding with mindfullness/presence come Energetics MASSAGE’ for all male bodies (hetero-, homosensual/sexual, bi-sexual, pansexual, Two-spirit, trans, non-binary, pansexual, intersex; asexual) -including same gender and hetero- couples (*How can we be in connecting/affectioning/intimacying with a different gender if we are disconnected from ourself and our same gender brothers?)

-a form of conscious intimate connecting between men: slowing down, pausing, ‘stopping’, ‘stilling’, lingering some more -with your thoughts returning back ‘home’ to your breathing …a calming, a ‘mind-fuelledness’ … a ‘divinity’ of the whole body and a returning to and through the heart! 

-the intention of this type of ‘massage’ experience is TO EXPAND ON THE NARRATIVE OF OUR SOMATIC experience cum REPERTOIRE AS MALES: BROTHERING COME BRO-LOVERING -as is evidenced by my/our FATHERS -DECEASED, SEPARATED, BLENDED, CLOSETED; UNCLES; COUSINS; NEPHEWS; SONS; BABIES; through to an impact on EMBRYOES. How we walk with and hug each other through to lying beside, ‘holding’ and intimate somatic-sexual connecting -a going beyond our isolation, separateness, objectification, disassociation, addiction; ‘colonisation’; mascularisation; armouring, and; filtered and coded communication patterns as a male body in relation to our individual spontaneity and our interrelating with others

I invite you to consider the somatic energetics of these dancers, and then imagine the somatic cum sexuality of such energetics when in intimate somatic sexual connection as men in male bodies …..Do you want to join as ‘lovers of the dance’ as we dance towards the layers within, and expand on our repertoire of somatics and somatic-sexuality and energetics with mindfullness/presence, and be witness to..? 

Ziya Zazai, 2012, Ankara State Opera & Ballet, Gala Performance, Turkey

Tena koutou katoa!

*Summative Version -contact details etc. at the top of the page

A ‘Holding with Presence come Energetics MASSAGE’ for All Males, trans/queer/beyond binary living in male bodies, including same gender and hetero- couples (*How can you/we be in connecting/affectioning/intimacying with a different gender if you are disconnected from ourself and your same gender brothers?): Brothering come Bro-Lovering -as evidenced by my/our fathers -deceased, separated, blended, closeted; uncles; cousins; nephews; sons; babies; through to an impact on embryoes.

Information                                                                                                                        *This type of ‘massage’ is not appropriate for any in-therapy survivor of abuse, and/or trauma, unless checked through on by a professional counsellor etc., first.

The ‘holding’ massage involves four distinct types of somatic experience, the first two can be completed within one or two sessions, while the third and fourth need to be usually completed as separate sessions, after the two previous types have been completed or repeated more than once

1. clothes on with no genital contact by the use of two pillows

2. clothes on with genital contact *With mutual consent

NB: For this and the following sessions, a conversation will need to take place about the honesty of any relationship you are in,  pertaining to our working together, as I do not wish to collude with a dishonouring of myself/my practice, yourself and/or your  partner, as I would then be perpetuating betrayal and secrecy/a conspiracy of silence 

3. clothes on with genital contact, together with a combination of ‘holding’ come energetics *With mutual consent

4. an undressing with each other together, then a combination of ‘holding’ come energetics

 *With mutual consent, but not a given, on having participated in the other types of massage

*Conversations about safer sexual practices, and; any sexual boundaries (no-go areas) will take place

Although the experience is of varying degrees of depth, that change moment by moment, there is also a lightness because of the simplicity of the intent -to be in conscious intimate connection with each other through ‘holding’ and energetics, a return to the locus of our heart -breathing and sighing/vocalisation; ‘a dropping down into’..!

-for all men, irrespective of sexual orientation/identity/behaviour, including same gender and hetero-couples

-needing a timeframe of at least 1 hour and thirty minutes to 2 hours

-for reasons of body odour, a warm shower, toiletries and a heated towel is available to be used if you have not been able to shower within the last two hour *Please indicate if a shower is needed on making the appointment, please.

-when clothed, no hard items such as metal belts, keys etc. in pockets

-the use of the top of a double bed with regular and tri-pillows

-as a lead-in to the session, the accompaniment of Henryk Gorecki, Symphony No. 3, Opus 36 CD

See live performance

and then experienced from within the silence by the end of the session, for the last 20 minutes or more -other than each other’s changes in breathing, swallowing and/or sighing

-$75 fee -free or by anonymous donation, plus or minus (with an umbrella container at the door on the way out that will not be looked at until after several sessions have taken place as I do not want to know how much an individual donated, unless you so wish to

General Background

Although I have previously experienced a variation of this approach during the personal growth workshops of the 70s and 80s, an acquaintance re-introduced me to the idea after returning from India. He provided a weekly session for a couple of months until he shifted back to Auckland. It became an important aspect of my week, and the memory of the experience nurtured and lingered with me beyond the session and into the following week.

Specifics

On stepping through the doorway you will hear in the background the music of Henryk Gorecki, Symphony No. 3, Opus 36, unless you have talked to your dislike of this or other classical music on making the appointment.

After showering, if needed and alerted previously, the session will have unknowingly already started as we converse around information sharing and any questions, while at the same time becoming aware of each others’ initial response to our meeting for the first time (increased heart rate, an attraction and/or sexual curiosity is allowed!) and then starting to be aware (conscious) of each others’ physical positioning in terms personal space (comfortableness and/or awkwardness; distance through to closeness) as it changes moment by moment. During this initial stage i may start introducing some innocent touch making before leading you into the session further…

That awareness will remain throughout the session -beginning with no touching then moving towards tentative touching, more relaxed touching/holding, a letting go and greater intimate connection (lying beside each other with the possibility of touching and/or holding each other in a variety of positions with varying degrees of intimacy, changing moment by moment).

At the same time our thoughts will come and go, with a life of their own! as a parallel process, but, hopefully just observing, and returning to the sensory experience of our bodies ‘in relation (connection) to each other’, an Innocence.

At some stage, there seems to be a more pronounced letting go and an absence of trying to do or be anyone, a general feeling of contentment comes to the fore, -the essence of a ‘holding’ session.

Each of us will be in charge of how close (intimate), physically, that we want to be, of mutual benefit and reciprocity, and a co-existent whole body ‘warmth’ come arousal in any given moment.

For the first three types, other than our hands and feet, the only other flesh contact may be our heads and faces, with the option of a partially open shirt or our bare chests, otherwise it will shift the intention and value of this type of ‘massage’.

In other words I am endeavouring to make a distinction between the mutual reciprocity of ‘holding’ come energetics and the receiving of a sensual and/or sensual, intimate come erotic massage, while valuing of both approaches at different times or stages in our lives.

*Although the experience is of varying degrees of depth, that change moment by moment, there is also a lightness because of the simplicity of the intent -to be in connection with each other through ‘holding’ with less conscious brain!

Identity: homosexual.  Gender: non-binary/beyond binary male
Behaviours: with all hetero-/homo- male bodies, less binary/non-binary/beyond binary brothers in male bodies (gay, bi-sexual [Two-Spirit, pansexual], transgender, non-binary, queer, intersex, asexual, celibate, monastic++)
Duration for Sexual Intimacy: episodic; event based, and/or; contractual with significant other
Sexual Intimacy Configuration: male dyad; bro-lover non fraternal polyandry
Disclosures and Negotiations/Consent: prior to for HIV/PrEP; STIs, and; in the moment

Beforehand Care: consult with your counsellor; identify fixed boundaries

After Care: verbal/contractual agreement re. face-to-face psychological access for an agreed to timeframe eg. on call for first 24 hours etc.                                                                                                          Professional services: Outline support line, call us on: 0800 688 5463. National Mental Health line, 1737 for national call or text    Burnett Centre, Auckland Central, 09 3095560. We provide services for gay, bisexual and other men who have sex with men, and people living with or affected by HIV. Our services include rapid HIV testing, STI screening, and counselling.

*A support person, partner, counsellor, parent/guardian (whether of female or male body) for a young adult between 18 and mid+ 20s is welcome and encouraged to attend, also -for reasons of practitioner transparency, boundaries and consenting with reference to a social construct ‘underbelly’ of power and control between a younger and older person.

*Experiential, Training Background: massage trainings -from Aio Wiro Yoga Centre/Swedish via Orthobionomy, Pulsing, psychic, Irene Smith/NZ Aids Foundation; through to experiencing Kashmiri Shiva-Shakti; “personal growth” workshops and trainings/Presbyterian Social Services; men’s movement groups, group and 1:1 Heart Circles (Harry Hay derived) for men who love men; my own personal counselling and professional supervision; co-‘peer facilitator’ of self and peer group sessions with men who love men
*Qualifications, postgraduate -not sexological specific: Dip. Teaching (Advanced). Cert. Professional Development and Supervision. Dip. Rehabilitation Studies. Masters papers in Narrative and Collaborative Style.